There is no growth in the comfort zone!
I realized this week that most of what I have planned for the next 6 weeks is putting me way outside my comfort zone and I have been resisting it all week. I couldn’t figure out why I was so motivated to clean my office and organize files that I have been avoiding for the past 6 months. I have been feeling unproductive and lacking focus. I am looking for anything to do that will help me feel “busy”, but avoid the discomfort of stepping into these opportunities because they are uncomfortable. Today, it hit me between the eyeballs; I am resisting the discomfort, the risk and the unknown and trying to stay safe.
So what do I do about it?
I need to shake things up, step into my discomfort and make some magic happen! I created these opportunities for myself, and now it is time to reframe my experience and get into action mode. So here is what I am going to attempt to do over the next several weeks to help me move through forward and ease into the discomfort:
1. Embrace what’s new! Rather than seeking the familiar (my familiar content and friendly audience) I am going to switch my mindset to embracing the new content I am passionate about and new audiences whom I have yet to meet, but might become meaningful connections, collaborators or clients. I have been looking for the familiar, and instead I am going to welcome what’s new. Where is there an opportunity for you to embrace something new, rather than clinging to the old and familiar?
2. Connect with my strengths and trust they will show up. A large part of my discomfort and avoidance kicks in when my confidence starts to wane. The opportunities in front of me require many of the same strengths I have used in other situations, so why do I feel like they will abandon me now? Even though the circumstances look different, I am still the same person and my inherent strengths are still intact. They will show up and serve me well when I need them. Trust in myself if the sub-theme here if you haven’t picked that up already. How will you connect with your strengths and use them to build your confidence?
3. Ask for help! I was fortunate yesterday to be on a conference call with other coaches who I respect and admire and while it felt vulnerable to ask for their ideas and help, it was a true gift to be able to seek their input and they were happy to be asked! My old behaviour would have been to hide and isolate to figure it out on my own, but I am recognizing the value in a community and engaging with peers and colleagues who are happy to help when I have the courage to ask. Where is there an opportunity for you to ask for help as you stretch yourself?
As usual, this blog was cathartic and self-serving as I needed the space to ground myself and gear up for the exciting phase in my business. I am speaking about Conversational Intelligence® at three events next month and recording my first online program to be released this fall. 🙂 I am looking forward to creating, experimenting and stretching into this exciting new era of Inspired Results Group and my own coaching and teaching journey!